Toxic Relationships


Bonnie Chen, Staff Writer

It is not uncommon to find oneself involved in a toxic relationship, whether it is between friends or partners. In one of these unpleasant situations, it is in one’s best interest to get out of it as soon as possible.

In a study at the University of California, Los Angeles, it is proven that “toxic friendship doesn’t just damage your psyche[, but] it can [also] be harmful to your long-term health.”

Some people may not catch the signs and notice as quickly as others; most need someone who gets a clearer view of their interaction as a third party. The challenge of realizing the damage they are causing can be especially difficult if the relationship holds a long history. 

In human relationships, constant conflicts never result in good situations for either party. This may take place if the partner cares more about oneself than the other. They will not take the feelings of the other party into consideration. Bad listeners and those short-tempered and easily-jealous can also contribute to the struggle to avoid conflict.

Communication is key in maintaining relationships, and according to CBS News, “Conflict happens when a person is not feeling honored in a relationship.” 

The focus on negativity in conversations can also make one uncomfortable in a relationship.  Friends who constantly make comments such as “I will never be able to ace this test” or “This will never happen to me” are negative influences that bring down hopes of success for their surrounding friends. 

Manipulative behaviors are also huge factors in toxic relationships. In the means of benefiting themselves, one may push their friend or partner out of their comfort zones or limits. This pressure will consistently build on as they continue to hold on to the relationship. It is also possible that the “victim” will cease to be themselves and only seek ways to please the other more.

After the recognition of the situation, the difficult part of removing oneself from a relationship follows. It is vital for the victim to know that they do not owe the other anything and that the other party should put in equal effort if they truly respect you and value the relationship. This “removal” may take a long period of time as you could still be encountering them every day. In this case, one can also try to dissociate oneself from them by not showing up occasionally to hangouts that aren’t that necessary. 

If you believe that you are no longer happy as a part of a relationship, feel free to confront the person or subtly distance yourself from them. Even if the decision can be challenging, toxic relationships and the pressure that follows are not good for anyone in the long run.


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